Dudu knows that almost everyone who reads this article must be regretting at least up to some extent about the things that happened when they couldn’t control anger. If you’re such a person, this is the item for you. From this, Dudu is going to discuss practical ways to bring down your anger.
Dudu wrote previously that it is hard for the ones who rarely get angry to control anger rather than for the ones who continuously get fired up. If you missed that piece of writing, don’t forget to check that out.
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Dudu doesn’t get angry frequently. He belongs to the rarely-getting-bitter category. That causes him to end up ruining the whole thing when fired up. Because of that habit, Dudu recently lost a close bond with a person who cared for him so much. That incident inspired him to find and try out anger-controlling methods. By writing this, he expects to share his findings with everyone.
Escape from the annoying situation
Most of the time, the decisions you make while you’re angry are not accurate. Therefore, instead of making a wrong judgment, we can focus on something else. For that, you can try out the following tips.
This is a popular method used by people to divert their attention. You can count either in an ascending order or a descending order, as per your desire.
Grab a chance to see what’s happening outside, when you’re blown up. It will bring you mental satisfaction, keeping you away from anger.
Murmur a phrase which is specific to you
This way is ideal for calming down yourself when you’re on the peak of anger. Just close your eyes and mutter something like, ‘Take it easy. I’ll be okay’.
Well, now you must be like, ‘Are you kidding me?’, because we all know how hard it is to smile when heated. But this will definitely make you forget the anger.
Tip: You can find funny memes on the internet.
Make a calm down kit
Write down your spectacular memories and humorous experiences in small pieces of paper. Fold and put those in a jar or a box. When angry, just open it and read randomly selected papers. Recalling your dazzling memories will make you feel better in a short time. This is a really effective way to control anger.
Imagine the way of forgiving toxic people
All of us have had bad encounters with people like that. They may have done seriously wrong stuff to you, making you feel mad at them. But believe me, holding a grudge is not going to solve everything. Think about forgiving them.
When angry, we know that the hormones which can make us feel bustled are secreted inside the human body. This phenomenon will cause excitement, helping your anger to be enhanced. Hence, it’s very much essential to calm down before you lose control. You must be able to control your anger before it starts controlling you. The following steps will be helpful for that.
Engage in physical activities
Thanks to those hormones, you gain a physical strength that is stronger than your actual power. Obviously, it is something that should be used effectively. If not, it can bring fateful results. We have even heard about violent incidents that happened due to instant anger.
We should make sure to use that strength in a way that won’t develop anger or harm anybody. For this, you can do things like walking, jogging, exercising…etc. You can also engage in muscle relaxing activities. Those tips are helpful for dropping off the emission of stress hormones. So, next time when you feel like punching someone in the face, go for a run!
Take a deep breath slowly
Anger speeds up your breathing. Fast breathing can make you angrier. What will happen if we did its reverse action? To check that out, gradually slow down the breathing rate and take a deep breath intentionally. Repetition of this process will reduce your anger.
Try finding a solution for what caused you anger
Now you know that the accuracy of the decisions we take while angry is very low. Thus, you have to settle down before coming to a judgment. Finding a solution to put an end to the questioning situation is very important. Try out the following methods.
Talk with a close friend
A friend in need is a friend indeed. You can get help from a trustworthy buddy of yours. Present your problem, compare your ideas and put your heads together so you can come up with a better solution.
Try to see the problem from a different angle
Have you ever tried this? I hope a few of you may have. We usually look at a problem only from our angle. Also, we know that our vision is not perfect every time. Considering the problem from different angles will make you see an unseen side. This video will explain that.
Start an anger diary
Write about the angering situations you had to face. Mention,
- The way you behaved at that time.
- The reasons which caused anger.
- The way you got the problem solved.
When you continue writing like this, you’ll become sharp enough to identify the cause of anger and a proper solution quickly.
Pay attention to these when you’re angry
Think before you speak
Words can hurt people more than anything else. No matter how angry you are, try to use words carefully and politely. Trash talking will only make things worse. That will even bring you a bad reputation.
Tip: Keeping quiet is much better than opening your mouth.
Don’t take anger out on others
It’s quite natural for people to release anger when they’re irritated. But, when they don’t get a chance to do so, they tend to take anger out on someone else, who might not be even related to that particular incident. This is a must-avoid habit. It can isolate you from society. Dudu also had similar experiences that brought him ill-luck.
Make your daily routine methodical
Include activities that won’t make you feel stressful. Dudu has written a separate article about things like that.
Find it in here: How to be happy: 24 simple ways that will surprise you
Be a bit more organized, and plan your day. Maintain a to-do list if you like.
Express ideas after taming your temper
Try various anger management methods. Let your temper cool down. Now you’re ready to convey your ideas in a more decent manner.
Tip: You can even express your ideas via a letter. When angry, write a letter addressing the one who’s responsible for annoying you. Once you finish writing, just throw it into the table drawer. After about one week, take it out and read it. Then decide whether you should send it or not. If you feel like it’s not appropriate to be sent, try writing a better one and sending that.
Dudu hopes this article would have been so helpful to you. If there are more methods to control the anger that were not mentioned, feel free to add those to the comment section. We appreciate it when you share your ideas with us.
Dudu expects to talk about The Law of Attraction from the next article. Bye for now!
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